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Im just basically an adventurous person. Im interested in music, travel and business. Cooking makes my day. Im easy to be with and i allow myself to learn from different people. Blogging is also one of the new habit im starting to enjoy through which i am able to express my thoughts and ideas through it. Im an expressive person and i respect other people's beliefs. I find my life challenging and full of opportunities and that makes me excited.

Tuesday, November 18, 2008

Dating a Filipina

Are Filipina’s hot? This is a question that I asked myself sometimes when I see dating sites that full of westerners looking for a Filipina date. Majority of them look for a Filipina. I also noticed the same thing in any chat room. I wonder if there’s something about a Filipina or it has something to do with being Asian. Many foreigners thought that Filipinas are easy to get or probably after their pockets. I wonder why these westerners that have that kind of thinking still pursue in hunting a Filipina date or wife. No one would want anybody to be with someone who is after your pocket. But with all of these rumors, I see hundreds of them still marrying or dating Filipinas and they look happy. I thought about this many times and I wouldn’t believe that they allow themselves for that situation where these girls take advantage on them. I finally then realized that it is not really true.

There are so many things that I observed why these foreigners visit the Philippines to date Filipinas aside from touring around. One truth that I heard from several westerners that I’ve talked to is that Filipinas are more domesticated than western women. They are more oriented in taking care of kids, good housekeeping, budgeting, being more touchy and affectionate and being submissive as a wife. Another factor is that Filipinas keep relationship due to the fact that divorce is not allowed in this country. With that, we learn how to maintain the relationship and hold on to it through ups and downs and keep the family ties.

Filipinas, compared to western women are more reserved in any aspect. They are a little more conservative as to fashion. Considering that westerners are more advanced countries, it also applies to the people. There are few Filipinas specially in the province who would spend their time watching Fashion TV or get the most updated magazines to look for the trend and fashion. An average Filipina wife would go to work or stay home to do the household chores and take care of kids. They also watch the television and spend time to chat with friends or neighbors unlike westerners; they would go to work, go on shopping till they drop, spend hours in the parlor, attend social activities, read their fashion magazines, spend time on the internet and do households to. There is actually nothing wrong with each of them. One has advantage to the other and vice versa.

Another important thing that I think is that probably the skintone of westerners and Asians are attractive for each other. When a Filipina see a white guy passing by, she couldn’t help to stare and same way as the other. But most white guys wonder why Filipinos in general love to stare which is rude for some. Filipinos don’t mean to stare at all and be rude but because white is attractive and different, they couldn’t help to stare. On the other hand, westerners in majority love to get a more brown skin. Most of them would expose themselves under the sun just to acquire that tan skin. With all of these, it makes both attractive to each other. Also, Filipinos have average size built with regard to physical aspect and westerners are taller or a little bigger. With bigger guys, they would
find it hot for a woman to be petite. They find it cute and sexy and they feel manlier that they are taller and bigger. So that probably explains it a little better.

The myth that Filipinas are after money is true but not only to Filipinas but also to any race and country in the world. You go to Europe, Asia, Australia or any other continents; you will always find or see these types of people or women to be specific. Yes, Philippines is not economically rich as to western countries but the people are raised here in values. Probably, those foreigners who meet girls that is after their pockets are also those guys who are not looking for a lasting relationship. The fact is, if you got the right motive then you will go to the right place and to the right person for a date. So I wish that these bad rumors will not be generalized by people for the sake of the morals of Filipina women. I myself is a Filipina and to think that my face looks like a dollar sign to foreigners is too much for my pride and morals. To Filipinas, let’s not allow ourselves to be branded as such and to westerners let’s respect others and that’s what we will get in return.


bobbyboy said...

Hi Pammy,
As one who has traveled around South East Asia, the sex industry is one part of the attraction to some westerners. The economy difference is another. If one looks closely enough, as it pertains to Filipino people, they will find a warm, friendly and accommodating people.

There are many successful Fi-West marriages here in the US and elsewhere.

If I may, it may be better to use the word "Westerner" as opposed to white because there are also Afro-American, Japanese, Hispanic foreigners etc, who fall into the same class of understanding.

The myth that Filipinas are after money is true but not only to Filipinas but also to any race and country in the world.

I tend to disagree with this as I know quite a number of sincere Pinay's who are looking for real relationships. If one travels to Angeles, then sure, they will find it's all about the money for the most part.

I end off seeing that we actually agree about this issue. I just wanted to point out that the way you said it, "The myth that Filipinas are after money is true but not only to Filipinas but also to any race and country in the world.", by itself is not true.

Thanks so much for such an insightful journal. I enjoyed it a lot :)

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Hi pammy!

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EuroYank said...

Your view is well written, but there are exceptions for example ...
Many Americans and European men are sexually active, and Asian girls like Filipinos and Thais are a turn on. But there is more. Asians as you stated are have more old school values and cherish family and home life. (or so they think.) Western women for some are too liberated, and too independent. Filipino women work in large numbers in many Islamic rich countries for example and endure almost slave conditions to earn money. Filipino women have a reputation to endure hardship and tolerate many things. Westerners know either how to EXPLOIT or VALUE this. I see a lot of this in Europe ... old rich ugly men with beautiful asian women with children. Some may be gold diggers, just like some western men are just looking for kicks, but I wonder which values have the most followers!